If you live with someone long enough... they have screwed you over.
It's unavoidable. Sharing life with another person means they hurt you, disappoint you, fail you or otherwise let you down. Yes, even "perfect marriages." Yes, even "best friends". Yes, even family members you adore.
And each day, there is that MOMENT. There is a moment where you have a split second to choose. The split second comes and goes before you can blink. But trust me, it's there. I live for those split-seconds in sessions with my clients.
If you don't know what I'm talking about, I'll tell you how to identify it.
It's the moment after the hurt, before the blame.
The moment after the pain, before the anger.
The moment when you feel the ache, and before you lash out.
It's the moment you are reminded of the way they let you down, no matter how long ago, but before you act.
It's unavoidable. Sharing life with another person means they hurt you, disappoint you, fail you or otherwise let you down. Yes, even "perfect marriages." Yes, even "best friends". Yes, even family members you adore.
And each day, there is that MOMENT. There is a moment where you have a split second to choose. The split second comes and goes before you can blink. But trust me, it's there. I live for those split-seconds in sessions with my clients.
If you don't know what I'm talking about, I'll tell you how to identify it.
It's the moment after the hurt, before the blame.
The moment after the pain, before the anger.
The moment when you feel the ache, and before you lash out.
It's the moment you are reminded of the way they let you down, no matter how long ago, but before you act.
THIS IS YOUR MOMENT.
Breathe. Pause. Blink for crying out loud! Take another breath.
Then watch this video.
Then take another breath. Because, oh man, does this part sting at first.
Hit pause. Now go back. Remember the love you share. Then remember some good moments. Then remember their own broken internal spaces. Remind yourself of their humanness. That they were born into the world as a tiny human (just like you) and they're only trying to figure this out (just like you).
Now hit play. Proceed from this space. Say what you need to. Express what you need to. Take care of yourself.
But for the sake of love, do it from this space. You got this.
