Care Providers Are Hurting

Can We Talk For A Minute?

To my readers who are care providers: the ones who wear work clothes marked by other peoples’ bodies. To those who consume copious amounts of caffeine so you can work while others sleep. To those who have held life and death in your hands and know the fragile knife point of the sacred and the tragic. To the ones who spent long years and the cost of a home for the privilege of working in such liminal space with far too little recognition of your sacrifice.

We need to talk.

As a group you are awe-inspiring. You are the example of achievement and doing what matters. You hold high esteem and also dogged criticism. You do it with grace and dignity. You are too busy caring to be bogged down.

As an individual you are suffering.

You see, research tells us that your job will take its toll. 1 in 4 of you have fully diagnosable PTSD right now from bearing witness to your patients' experience. Far more of you suffer below clinical thresholds.**

Because I know you well, I know how unlikely you are to do anything about this. You are used to helping others. You are accustomed to running into the fear, into the risk, into the alarms. You are used to providing answers and direction and healing for others. You will not easily ask for it for yourself.

So, care provider, I know I need to make a case. You will not go quickly or easily. So I will do my best.

Please treat your trauma because you deserve to be healthy.

Surely you’ve seen the studies? You know that untreated trauma can cause a host of mental and physical health symptoms. You have certainly seen it yourself. When your mind suffers, the body suffers with it. The two are not separate. Your health matters. Your gut, your heart, your sleep, your brain... matter.

Please treat your trauma because your loved ones need you.

PTSD steals us from ourselves and our loved ones. It causes us to become rigid, hypervigilant and vacant. It causes us to stiffen in the face of our loved ones’ pain. After all, if we cannot hold our own pain how can we hold theirs? Trauma shuts us down when things get intense, when we get tired, when we are triggered. Trauma has a real impact on our relationships.

Please treat your trauma because your patients need you.

Yes, I am going to say something that might sting. Trauma steals you from your patients. I have been in the hospital room when a provider was triggered and I have watched the dark cloud pass over her face. Traumatized providers are disconnected, fearful, anxious and rigid. Their eyes look away. Their body stiffens. There is no softer way to say this: trauma impacts your clinical judgement. When PTSD is triggered you are no longer responding to the situation at hand. The nature of the brain and trauma insists that you are flooded with hormones and even somatic flashbacks. This means you are making decisions based on things past. You are being influenced by things not in the room.

You didn’t ask for any of this. Trauma is the scar of your caring. It is the weight of diving into suffering and giving it your all. It isn’t your fault. But you are the only one who can decide what to do with it.

So my care providers, my lovers of humanity, my battle-weary angels in flesh, please heal your PTSD. Please give yourself the care and compassion you would recommend to a patient. You deserve it and we need you.

Thank you for giving your all,

Looking for next steps?To read a brief description of trauma and my preferred treatment methods, go here.

If you want to see my 2 min video on "what is trauma" go here.
If you want to see my 2 min video on "how to heal your trauma" go here

ps- I made a video about this

*Image Credit to
**Beck, C. T., Driscoll, J., & Watson, S. (2013). Traumatic childbirth. Abingdon, Oxon: Routledge.


  1. heal from broken heart" I wish I could find the right words to say how thankful i am to this love spell caster called Dr Ibrahim for bringing back my husband after he left me and our 3 kids for another woman, After 12years of marriage me and my husband has been into one quarrel or the other until he finally left me and moved to California to be with another woman. I felt my life was over and my kids thought they would never see their father again. i tried to be strong just for the kids but i could not control the pains that torments my heart, my heart was filled with sorrows and pains because i was really in love with my husband. Every day and night i think of him and always wish he could come back to me, I was really worried and i needed help, so i searched for help online and I came across a website that suggested that Dr Ibrahim can help get ex back fast. So, I felt I should give him a try. I contacted him and he told me what to do and i did it then he did a Love spell for me. 28 hours later, my husband really called me and told me that he miss me and the kids so much, So Amazing!! So that was how he came back that same day, with lots of love and joy, and he apologized for his mistake, and for the pain he caused me and the kids. Then from that day, our Marriage was now stronger than how it were before, all thanks to Dr Ibrahim. he is so powerful and i decided to share my story on the internet that Dr Ibrahim is real and powerful spell caster who i will always pray to live long to help his children in the time of trouble, if you are here and you need love spell to get ex lover back forever or save your marriage fast. Do not cry anymore, contact this powerful spell caster Dr. Ibrahim now. Here’s his contact:
    Call/WhatsApp: +2348052074872

  2. I'm a professional in all kinds of hacking services, which leads me into giving out a blank ATM card to all individuals & serious minded people only. I hack, clone ATM cards worth's the total sum of $500,000.00 United States Dollars, with this card you can withdraw the sum of $3500 as daily limit till you cash out the sum total said sum & this cards has been cloned & hacked in the manner that you'll never be caught not detected during usage. For more info, kindly email us: OR Call/WhatsApp: +16626183756

  3. Are you in need of a hacker in any area of your life??? then you can contact; services like; -hack into your cheating partner's phone(whatsapp,,icloud,facebook, twitter,snap chat and others) -Sales of Blank ATM cards. -hack into email accounts and trace email location -all social media accounts, -school database to clear or change grades, -Retrieval of lost file/documents -DUIs -company records and systems, -Bank accounts,Paypal accounts -Credit cards hacker -Credit score hack -Monitor any phone and email address -Websites hacking, pentesting. -IP addresses and people tracking. -Hacking courses and classes CONTACT THEM= hackintechnologyatcyberservicesdotcom or whatsapp +12132951376 their services are the best on the market and 100% security and discreet work is guaranteed


Thank you for taking the time to comment. Please note that this (being the internet) is not a confidential or secure way to contact me. If you wish to speak with me privately, please call me at 916-270-7413 or visit my site