Monday

When Your Traumatic Birth Is Fresh At The Holidays

I see you mama.

Your loved ones want to hear all about it. They expect smiles. They expect you to be so overjoyed.

They don't see the pain you're in. Maybe they don't even want to see it.


So many people, so exhausting. So many times to replay the story in your head. How do you say the truth? How can you say what burns in your mind and heart?

Total disruption- sleeping and eating in strange places with unfamiliar company. Your baby needs you extra right now. Isn't that always how it goes? Baby needs you extra right when you really need too.

You. Need. Too.

And so you put all that need into cute sweaters and thin smiles. You prepare yourself for questions, or for no questions at all. You feel on display and invisible all at once. The exhaustion always makes the pain worse.

I see you mama.

Love to you this holiday season. Find you and your baby something pretty to look at. A candle. A twinkle light. Something that shines.
Photo by Jared Lind on Unsplash

Breathe in and out.

You don't owe anyone your story. You don't owe anyone a comfortable lie either. You say what you need to say. You don't say what you can't. You sit when you need to. You nap when you need to. You ask for help when you need to.

When it all becomes too much find a quiet place. Blame it on the baby. And you go look at something beautiful. Drink something warm and sweet. Wear comfortable socks. Wrap your body in softness.

I see you mama.

Love to you,
Krysta

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      So i was desperate to get a cure so that i can live normal and get my job training.
      i earlier made some research and i contacted some doctors online but they keep on asking for money for courier after that they'll tell you that tax and so more so i became broke and frustrated.
      One day i was less busy so i decided to make latest research on herpes cure and i found a site  were everyone was talking about DR Emmanuel and herbs ability to cure herpes.
      So i discussed with Neme Amber and she explained to me that its very easy working with Dr Emmanuel so i contacted DR Emmanuel via email ( nativehealthclinic@gmail.com ) and he helped me just as he has helped others now im cured and different medical centers has tested me and approved me cured.
      so i decided to thank Neme Amber cos she made it possible for me.
      and i can also assure you that he can also help you. so if you need the service of DR emmanuel, ill put his details here so that you can easily get in touch wif him.
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    3. KARNA RASA HATI YANG GEMBIRA BERKAT BANTUAN AKI SOLEH
      MAKANYA SENGAJA NAMA BELIAU SAYA CANTUNKAN DI INTERNET !!!

      assalamualaikum wr, wb, saya IBU PUSPITA WATI saya Mengucapkan banyak2
      Terima kasih kepada: AKI SOLEH
      atas nomor togelnya yang kemarin AKI berikan "4D"
      alhamdulillah ternyata itu benar2 tembus AKI
      dan berkat bantuan AKI SOLEH saya bisa melunasi semua hutan2…
      orang tua saya yang ada di BANK BRI dan bukan hanya itu AKI alhamdulillah,
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      seperti saya...?
      SILAHKAN GABUNG SAMA AKI SOLEH No; { 082-313-336-747 }

      Sebelum Gabung Sama AKI Baca Duluh Kata2 Yang Dibawah Ini
      Apakah anda termasuk dalam kategori di bawah ini...!!
      1: Di kejar2 tagihan hutang..
      2: Selaluh kalah dalam bermain togel
      3: Barang berharga sudah
      terjual buat judi togel..
      4: Sudah kemana2 tapi tidak
      menghasilkan, solusi yang tepat..!
      5: Sudah banyak dukun ditempati minta angka ritual blom dapat juga,
      satu jalan menyelesaikan masalah anda..
      Dijamin anda akan berhasil
      silahkan buktikan sendiri
      Atau Chat/Tlpn di WhatsApp (WA)
      No WA Aki : 082313336747

      TERIMA KASIH YANG PUNYA
      ROOM ATAS TUMPANGANYA SALAM KOMPAK SELALU
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    I was infected with HSV 2 for the past two years and i was unable to get a better job cos all the company i was to get employed checked our blood test and found out that i was positive to GENITAL HERPES and i loosed employment.
    So i was desperate to get a cure so that i can live normal and get my job training.
    i earlier made some research and i contacted some doctors online but they keep on asking for money for courier after that they'll tell you that tax and so more so i became broke and frustrated.
    One day i was less busy so i decided to make latest research on herpes cure and i found a site  were everyone was talking about DR Emmanuel and herbs ability to cure herpes.
    So i discussed with Neme Amber and she explained to me that its very easy working with Dr Emmanuel so i contacted DR Emmanuel via email ( nativehealthclinic@gmail.com ) and he helped me just as he has helped others now im cured and different medical centers has tested me and approved me cured.
    so i decided to thank Neme Amber cos she made it possible for me.
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    his email: nativehealthclinic@gmail.com or WhatsApp him at +2348140073965. instagram ig:@dremmanuel2
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